no-insertion-of-penis-during-sex

No insertion of penis in vagina during sex in all attempts so far, for months (even years after marriage) in newly married couple is called unconsummated marriage. It is a complaint that comes to me very frequently. Or, I have become more adept in diagnosing it.

  • Usually the man who is newly married complains that he has weak erection or/and premature ejaculation hence he has not been able to insert penis in vagina during sex.
  • The girl, newly married seeks help because they have not had sex. She complains, “My husband is not showing interest in sex”.


Two things are common in all of them:

  • They have not had insertion and
  • They are newly married.

What is the cause? What needs to be done?

Leave aside factors that are presently haunting you:

  • My erection is poor.
  • I have premature ejaculation
  • My husband loves me, but he does not show any interest in sex.

DYNAMICS OF PENO-VAGINAL SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
What is happening is penis is not going inside the vaginal passage.
There is a passenger, the penis, and there is a passage, the vagina.
Why is it that during sex, as it should happen, penis does not go in the vaginal passage.

The answer is that both of you are inexperienced. The passage is not accustomed to something going inside it. The husband also is not experienced in sexual intercourse.

WHY UNCONSUMMATED? EXPLAINED WITH EXAMPLE:
If you have never learned driving and I give you the keys of my limousine, will you be able to drive? What will happen when you struggle to press the accelerator and move the clutch? Most likely you will not get started or you will bump into something or you [husband] in the driver’s seat will feel ashamed and wonder, “what will she think of me. I have fallen in her eyes. Am I impotent?” Similar thing happens when two inexperienced people attempt sex during the first time.

COMMON STORY
They are usually anxious, this being their first time. They give themselves concession, “Well may be I was tired during the wedding and post wedding rituals. We will be able to do sex during honey moon.” When subsequent attempts do not bring result it is traumatic for the ‘man’. He [often she too] mistakenly believe that the case is of erectile dysfunction, or impotence or premature ejaculation. All the patience wanes away as months pass. It takes great amount of courage to reach a Therapist.

CAUSE. CURE?
This is in brief about the cause of unconsumated marriage. We have not touched here treatment modalities. Let me assure that with the guidance of Therapist, good understanding partners, even without medicines can achieve success, which will not be temporary but one that will last forever. Not seeking the help of therapist will only delay the matters. It is sure the problem will not go on its own.

DOUBTS
If sex is natural, why should we have this problem? Do other couples also need therapist? They too are as inexperienced as we are.

ASK
if you want to get reply.

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One response to “no-insertion-of-penis-during-sex

  1. tell me the cure sir

    DOCTOR’S REPLY
    Kindly visit the site http://mydoctortells.com and http://doctortells.blogspot.com
    Regards,
    Dr. Ashok Koparday

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